Over the holidays I spent time with family at my maternal grandparent’s house in Booneville, Mississippi. Yes, “Booneville.” The name’s appropriate for sure, and undoubtedly the landscape of myopia, racism (phrases like “across the tracks” are still spoken during dinner conversation) poverty, and absence of any pretentiousness that the mind conjures up matches exactly what you’d imagine. I was always under the impression that this was the type of place one should always try to escape from. I never took time to think that maybe, just maybe, the place would ever refuse to escape you.
Escape might be too strong a word. It suggests a flee, an avoidance, which, looking back, is probably exactly what I was doing at the time though that type of avoidance has left me in the past few years. Though I’d like to think I would never escape anything from my past now, I still know I wouldn’t come back to this place permanently. Of course, I didn’t grow up in Booneville and I never lived there. Instead, Booneville is a town of selective memory for me that rests its aged foundations about thirty miles north of my hometown. This was the place of all those memories you’d expect from time with grandparents–food, weekend sleepovers, family functions—nothing special save for those who have it in their “here’s what childhood was” lockbox that lumps itself somewhere in the center of your brain.
But Booneville was the type of place, or rather the archetype of place, I needed to get away from, if not for all the reasons above, then for a few extra that I won’t detail now. But, like I said, I don’t know if I’ve ever really gotten away, or at least it’s never really gotten away from me.
Before leaving for New York I went to college at the University of Mississippi (known to most as Ole Miss) in Oxford. For most, Oxford as a town probably wouldn’t be categorized in the same context at Booneville, but for me it always was: Booneville, Oxford, Tupelo, West Point, Amory, Jackson, all the places of my youth seemed the same to me… at least at the time. Looking back, I don’t think I could ever romanticize Booneville, but Oxford had its charms.
Oxford’s charms are those types of charms that you can’t see unless you have the ability to “look past.” If you’re able to look past the pastel colored Polos and pleated khaki shorts you might just see William Faulkner’s charming, and rather beautiful house just off of Old Taylor Road. If you’re able to look past the BMW’s and college football obsessions you might just see a lack of commercialization. Unlike Tupelo, Oxford is impressive for its satisfying amount of local restaurants, cafes, and shops. And if you are willing to see beyond the record DUI citations on a Friday night, you may just see a small coffee shop in downtown Oxford once called “Uptown Coffee.”
Tapping espresso shots and slinging lattes as a barista at Uptown was my first college job, and still my favorite thanks to incredible people I worked with, and the ease of the atmosphere. I left Uptown, and Oxford, in January of 2007 to come to New York. Since then I’ve always held it in my mind that the two—Mississippi and New York—were separated not only by distance, but by chapters in my life: the former was my past, the latter my present. I guess it’s one of those things everyone learns soon enough… sometimes the past just won’t stay put.
Just before leaving Uptown, the owner was preparing to franchise his store based on local success. Our roastery, High Point coffee, and Uptown, thus set out to do just that. The two converged and Uptown’s name was changed to High Point, and the subsequent franchises spread “High Point Coffee” around the U.S.
A few weeks ago my roommate and I were walking in our neighborhood when we saw a sign: “Coming Soon, High Point Coffee.” After confirming with a friend back home I learned that this was indeed a product of franchising rather than coincidence. It’s a bastardization of the Uptown Coffee I once knew; it’s too big for its own good and it more closely resembles a McDonald’s than an arthouse coffee shop, but the one-pound coffee bags say Oxford, Mississippi and the pastries in the display case are all too familiar. It has since opened for business, and I pass by it everyday while running my errands. There it stands, just five blocks from my apartment, closer even then the grocery store where I buy my cage free eggs and organic blueberries, like a testament to some universal truth: home follows you wherever you go.
then you turn around and people you went to high school with are commenting on your blog and it’s just like you’re back on the newspaper staff and singing Avenue Q songs and waiting for the editor’s head to explode because you know that mrs. milton will kill you if your senior project isn’t wonderful even though she could care less and no one really knows what’s going on and someone drew a phalic symbol on the bleachers and no one got a picture- not that we would be allowed to print that anyway, but it would be better than selling ads and who has time to sell ads when you’re applying for college and who knows who will want to take you because your score is just like everyone elses except that one guy with the 36 who was recently kicked out of honor society for assisinating the choir with a water gun but we can’t put that in the senior edition because curlee said so too bad he can’t stop the senior project like that but it keeps coming anyway and it all keeps coming and it’s three oclock, it’s 2005, it’s speech time, it’s caps in the air, it’s packing and unpacking and packing again- then it’s over. yeah it’s like that.
Wow! Stacey! That is incredible.
And, here comes another high school/ Ole Miss friend who, too, shares the same towns that you experienced throughout childhood and adolescence. The difference? Well, I’m not sure that there is a difference except that I’m still here, driving to and from Oxford frequently, visiting family in West Point & Booneville, and loving on children who will turn into the high school students we were at Tupelo.
I love that you see the name Oxford, Mississippi, in New York. That makes me know that at some point, in your present life, you do think of home and those you said good-bye to. I miss you like crazy because you were one of the only “normal” people at Ole Miss. You understood my hatred of the colored polo and the BMW and the “Ole Miss girl” stereotype. Everytime I walk past the benches outside of the student union or the high spot you used to climb up and sit upon at the library, I remember our long talks in between classes.
Drew, you are amazing, and you’re doing amazing things. You broke through the Mississippi bubble, and for that, I am so proud of you. While I, too, desire very much to escape and experience what life would be like outside of this state, I am chained here by job offers, sweet children who go to my church, and well… my comfort zone. I will get past it… one day.
Sad, but good blog.
The Uptown closed by McAlister’s and JoJo’s from Fairpark moved in.
That’s crazy that it followed you to NY. *
I enjoyed reading this very much. (I can’t wait ’till you write a book and I get to read it.) One of the strangest and best feelings is when everything comes full circle, whether you like it or not.
I hope things are going well! Let’s catch up soon.
WOW !!! i AM SO IMPRESSED